1. Our next Q&A session is on the topic of Christmas and dementia.This time we want our Q&A to involve our resident experts, you! Share tips and advice on navigating Christmas here in this thread.

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  1. littlemisssun

    littlemisssun Registered User

    Nov 2, 2014
    13
    Morning. I have just had an email from mil saying memory clinic would like my sil to go with her to next appointment in 6 months. Apparently sil did not go last week when asked cos didn't think dementia is bad enough. Is it anything to worry about that clinic have asked for sil to go for first time?
     
  2. chris53

    chris53 Registered User

    Nov 9, 2009
    2,929
    London
    Good morning littlemisssun:) just wanted to reassure you it is perfectly normal to be "escorted" ;) usually by a family member as the consultant will ask questions to them as well as mum in law, also they may be a point of contact for any further meetings/assessments/medications as time goes on, mum in law will need to give permission for who ever goes with her that they can sit in this consultation, as with any illness there are good and bad days, and dementia likes to play tricks on us carers! as some days all seems to be very normal. As this appointment is in 6 months time, maybe(if she is not already doing this) your sister in law could keep a diary of any concerns or things that mum in law has difficulty in either doing or does not seem to understand,getting into the "loop" with the memory clinic is so vital especially at this early stage.
    Best wishes
    Chris
     
  3. jaymor

    jaymor Volunteer Moderator

    Jul 14, 2006
    12,556
    Female
    England
    Hi,

    I went with my husband to every one of his visits to the memory clinic. It meant I knew how he was doing, what the consultant was saying etc.. Left to my husband to tell me, even in the early days it would have been a bit jumbled and I would probably have been told everything was fine, there was no problem.

    I was also able to tell them that the notes they were reading out from our last visit and our comments were not right. They had someone else's files mixed in with my husband's.

    My husband was always a bit agitated too so coffee and cake after soon settled him.
     
  4. nitram

    nitram Registered User

    Apr 6, 2011
    19,277
    Male
    North Manchester
    The system used at the clinic my wife attended was - both of us go into consulting room, wife taken out to be weighed, I talked to consultant and CPN, when finished door was put ajar as a signal for return of wife and consultation continued.
     
  5. littlemisssun

    littlemisssun Registered User

    Nov 2, 2014
    13
    Thank you, that's very helpful. A friend has been with her for last 2 visits. I was just concerned that it meant something about her condition but realise now it's routine.
     
  6. henfenywfach

    henfenywfach Registered User

    May 23, 2013
    332
    rct
    Hi!..i always think its a good idea to have a friend or family member.with someone attending any appointment...firstly if memory is affected..it can help.and secondly and most importantly....when doing test or generally observing the families opinion is concerned to be imperative..and if you look at the tests available for view on the internet to guide clinicians..our opinions..count as part of the test and scoring...
    Very often family find it hard to speak about these things in front of them ..but if the dr isnt aware he cant help!

    Best wishes

    Sent from my GT-I9505 using Talking Point mobile app
     
  7. littlemisssun

    littlemisssun Registered User

    Nov 2, 2014
    13
    Mil has been attending the clinic for couple yr. We only found out she has v dementia in October when she finally asked doc. Must have been told before but didn't pick it up. Didn't come as surprise. Let's say though the dementia sadly exacerbates the more challenging aspects of my mil personality that existed prior to the illness.it was me who persuaded her to take a friend last yr. Would be useful to have contact with this friend as they have been very effective so far.
     
  8. littlemisssun

    littlemisssun Registered User

    Nov 2, 2014
    13
    And thanks for the wishes .
     

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