Hello
@Angel24
You havent said explicitely that this man has dementia, but Im assuming that he has. Is it an assessment unit? Unfortunately he is probably there because of challenging behaviour. Most people think that dementia just makes you forgetful, but unfortunately it is much, much more than that. It affects the way that you think and can completely change your personality. Often their view of reality is not the same as actual reality.
Unfortunately, people with dementia are unable to help it - it is not like a mental health problem, it is a neurological one and due to actual damage within the brain. It cannot be fixed and no amount of reasoning will change it. Drugs can help calm them down, but dont stop the underlying problem. Ultimately, you have to just let it flow off you - hard though that is. My mum said some terrible things to me - not racist, but terribly hurtful - and now my OH is displaying inappropriate sexual behaviour. In both of these people such behaviour is/was entirely out of their original character - dementia has changed them. The world of people with dementia becomes smaller and smaller and they become entirely unable to see anything from anyone elses viewpoint. Someone on here said that they thought that we carers become in the mind of people with dementia, little more than "things" with no feeling of our own which they need to consider, which that person feels they can use to get what they want. Im not sure Id entirely go along with that, but the lack of awareness that other people have needs and feelings that they aught to consider is true. When I catch OH behaving sexually inappropriately, he just thinks that it is funny and laughs at the way I am upset.
When dealing with people with dementia, you might find this thread helpful
The following piece was posted a while ago on DSF and made a big impression on me. It is something I have referred to time after time and tried hard to follow. We have many new members who may not have seen it before. Yesterday I posted it on another Thread but thought it might be helpful if...
forum.alzheimers.org.uk