Hi
My Mum has been judged by doctors to be independent etc. However, she's good at putting on an act.
She's out of hospital after not eating and getting weak. She won't have carers. She stayed with me but demanded to go home.
I can't get how she can have mental capacity re. decisions when after an hour, maybe less, she can't remember what she she's decided and disagrees.
I am worn out travelling an hour each way. I want a carer to go in three times a day for consistency of care (she takes tablets four times a day and needs to eat before taking them). She's not eating and loosing weight or ill as she has the pills without food. Doctors can't make her have carers and have recommended them.
Is there anything I can do? Fed up of getting her well and then she goes home and ill. Causes issues with my husband and I now as he is fed up of me practically have to live at my Mums. Bad cycle of her getting ill etc. We've tried talking to her and she shouts when we suggest carers.
Thinking of going for deputyship but worry that she might be regarded as having mental capacity and destroying my relationship with my Mum. If she remembers I've done this, that is!
My Mum has been judged by doctors to be independent etc. However, she's good at putting on an act.
She's out of hospital after not eating and getting weak. She won't have carers. She stayed with me but demanded to go home.
I can't get how she can have mental capacity re. decisions when after an hour, maybe less, she can't remember what she she's decided and disagrees.
I am worn out travelling an hour each way. I want a carer to go in three times a day for consistency of care (she takes tablets four times a day and needs to eat before taking them). She's not eating and loosing weight or ill as she has the pills without food. Doctors can't make her have carers and have recommended them.
Is there anything I can do? Fed up of getting her well and then she goes home and ill. Causes issues with my husband and I now as he is fed up of me practically have to live at my Mums. Bad cycle of her getting ill etc. We've tried talking to her and she shouts when we suggest carers.
Thinking of going for deputyship but worry that she might be regarded as having mental capacity and destroying my relationship with my Mum. If she remembers I've done this, that is!