Long story but basically my Dad has got 'mild/moderate' dementia and is in hospital. He's 80. They say in the hospital that he has 'mental capacity' and he says that he wants to go home so the OT's have suggested that he comes home with carers coming in 3 times a day. Have visited him tonight, doesn't know where he is, forgets what he's talking about mid sentence, didn't know where his bed was, wandered off down the corridor in the wrong direction, admitted to himself that he felt 'lost'. My Mom is in respite at the moment but will probably come home. She is in poor health and also suffers from depression and anxiety and we believe may also have the start of AD. After having seen Dad tonight, my and my sister have decided that we have to push for a care home due to the fact that we feel that my Mom can't cope with him at home and we feel that he wouldn't cope with carers coming in 3 times a day (adjusting to new routines etc). Lots of other issues too, see my previous thread 'New Member needs help!' Tonight he said he didn't want to come home, cos there's nobody for him to talk to/company etc. Then later on, he said he just wants to get home ??? I suggested care homes and he didn't totally dismiss the idea. My question is, how the hell can they say that My Dad is mentally capable after I have seen him in the condition that he is in tonight. OK, he might have been having a bad day but there are going to be a lot of bad days! Also, do you feel that we could push for care in light of the circumstances with Mom and also that Dad is so bad (his short term memory is really bad, can't remember something that I told him 5 minutes earlier). Thanks all, this forum has been a godsend to me.