Hello,
My sister and I would like to get an LPAs sorted for my mother. Sadly family issues are making this complicated.
1. Her partner of many years (but is not married to) is resistant to do it. We are not sure why but he doesn't seem to trust us even though we have explained that he can have power of attorney. We have explained that it could be a very tricky situation if we do not get LPA but he doesn't think it's needed.
2. However he already has all her banks cards and does all the banking/bill paying.
3. He will normally speak for her if there is a decision to be made ( he is a very strong character). He has said that he can do all the thinking and remembering for her! She will defer to all decisions and has always joked that she finds it difficult to make a decision and would prefer someone else to do so.
4. I understand that the 'certificate provider' needs to speak to the person alone. However, I'm not sure how she will respond if she is on her own as she has become so dependant on her partner. i.e. if she is asked if she understands why she is there and what her preferences are regarding the LPA by a solicitor or certificate provider she is likely to respond by saying that they should ask someone else!
Therefore my question is this: what happens if someone potentially has capacity but refuses to state what their wishes or preferences would be and constantly defers to someone else?
If we can't get her partner to agree to organise an LPA and she won't do anything without his support then what happens next? What situations may force involvement of courts or capacity assessments etc?
Thanks in advance
My sister and I would like to get an LPAs sorted for my mother. Sadly family issues are making this complicated.
1. Her partner of many years (but is not married to) is resistant to do it. We are not sure why but he doesn't seem to trust us even though we have explained that he can have power of attorney. We have explained that it could be a very tricky situation if we do not get LPA but he doesn't think it's needed.
2. However he already has all her banks cards and does all the banking/bill paying.
3. He will normally speak for her if there is a decision to be made ( he is a very strong character). He has said that he can do all the thinking and remembering for her! She will defer to all decisions and has always joked that she finds it difficult to make a decision and would prefer someone else to do so.
4. I understand that the 'certificate provider' needs to speak to the person alone. However, I'm not sure how she will respond if she is on her own as she has become so dependant on her partner. i.e. if she is asked if she understands why she is there and what her preferences are regarding the LPA by a solicitor or certificate provider she is likely to respond by saying that they should ask someone else!
Therefore my question is this: what happens if someone potentially has capacity but refuses to state what their wishes or preferences would be and constantly defers to someone else?
If we can't get her partner to agree to organise an LPA and she won't do anything without his support then what happens next? What situations may force involvement of courts or capacity assessments etc?
Thanks in advance