It feels like to me its all a pen pushing exercise to keep the powers that be happy. Whether its any different in the UK or your country? Mums annual Geriatrician review yesterday for her AD. I was already at odds with him, as I phoned the receptionist if I could either see him on my own or give him a letter to read before hand. In his words... Yes... Sure.. but whatever I disclose to him he has a duty to inform Mum as the patient. Why would I then want to jeopardise my relationship with Mum as her main Carer So yesterdays appt went swimmingly.. How are you Mrs S? How do you think your memory is compared to when I saw you last, the same or worse? Oh I'm fine. My memorys about the same. I forget things but they come back in a flash. How are you doing around the home, are you still managing to get out and about? Yes I'm fine I still do my housework ,and walk up to the shops now and then. So he asks a few more questions, and then turns around and asks me the same. All I was prepared to say in front of Mum was that she was needing alot more supervision. He says. What do you want us to do, what support do you need? We can't have someone there 24/7. He then rabbits on about Mum taking her 5mg Donepezil for now, but she has been stable now for 2 yrs, and how marvelous Mum is doing, and how well she is looking. Doesn't feel any memory tests is necessary as it would serve no purpose. He has signed her off and back to her GP's care There was so much I could say but didn't. In the meanwhile an appt letter arrives for Dad to see the Memory Team again. He has cognitive impairment. What is the point!? Dad doesn't want to do crosswords or read books to keep his mind active. Doesn't want to join in any other groups or mens groups. At the end of the day, whats being done is being done. I still feel like I'm in limbo for that big crisis to happen. I have an appt with Mums GP on Monday and will be telling him how all I want at this stage is to be taken seriously and listened to as a Carer.