how can making her face up to her problems help her
I never perceived taking mum to memory clinic as facing up to the problem to help her . I just wanted the right diagnose , so she could get the right medication and the right help [support ] . never felt that the medical team was trying to make her face the problem to help her
5 years now and to mum they nothing wrong with her and really if that help her cope I don't mind . trying to get mum to admit they anything wrong with her memory would be like getting blood out of a stone . She does no that she take memory tablets , because she say even now is this tablet for my memory and I just say yes .
I use to think she was in denial also , but in the reality of her own mind , she perceive its all down to her legs , but then that what she tell me. what she is really thinking only she really knows , I can use to put myself in her shoes in how she feels about it . but that would go to deep for me to go in to . so have stop doing that , so just respect that she does not want to talk about it .
I would try not to worry about the appointment , as they made my mother feel they where no wrong or write question , they ask her a few question smile nicely when she got it wrong not telling her , just marking something on a paper , they ask her to do some drawing also not picking up on her mistake . with mum finishing of with see they nothing wrong with me and a few other rude words
then they sent for brain scan .
In England they repeated this same test in the same way question drawing , also making my mother feel they was no wrong or right in it . which I felt put my mother at ease with it all , 2nd time was not rude .