Aisling and Lilac it's hard enough when you've got a bit of help but do so feel for you both coping alone. Hope things improve Aisling but if not would call your GP. You can't go on like this. Huge hugs. xxx
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Hi Jinx and all you wonderful people who keep me sane,
GP tells me he needs full time nursing home care which we can't afford. I had to stay with him today in day care! Never thought I would be in a day centre at my young age. That's my wicked sense of humour!!
I can't even leave him in a room on his own anymore as it is not safe. I fed our cats tonight and T was standing at the door watching me. Fed cats( Stella and Cosmo!), turned around and T wasn't at door. Came inside to see where he was and he appeared back at door covered in mud. He fell in yard. He wasn't hurt TG but I couldn't believe my eyes. I just cried and cried while changing him and he resisting me every step of the way.
He is asleep now but I can't leave bedroom so mess in kitchen will have to wait until the morning. I expect he will be up several times during the night.
His sister and her husband call on a rare occasion and she drivers me mad. Doesn't try to talk to T but subjects me to question session. She will do nothing at all to help me and I am afraid I will loose my patience some day. I asked her if T could stay with her for an hour some day so I could do a few bits at home. Answer no as she thinks it wouldn't be good for him to be away from home. I only have to see her at the door and my blood pressure soars!!
I saw another relation the other day who told me all about an afternoon healing service to which he will be going. Great I thought, I might get an hour on my own so asked him if he would take T. No he couldn't do that but strongly advised ME to go with T as it would be good for me !!!
Folding clothes earlier earlier and putting them in basket. Delighted with him and myself. Turned around to pick up cups and bingo all the laundry was messed up and on the floor.
Am sick of locals asking me how he is and then launching into advice about how I should be looking after myself and taking breaks. Lots of advice on me going to the hair salon etc. I haven't time to wash my face some days! Am beginning to wonder what is wrong with my hair!!! They can give all this advice in a two minute monologue!! Am getting to the stage that I don't want to see or talk to anyone or listen to "advice"!
On the positive side we have two good friends who call to see us occasionally and they check to see timing is ok. All the other "friends" have disappeared long ago.
Am sorry, I know I am ranting. Again!
Aisling ( Ireland )