My husband has vascular dementia, diagnosed 2 years ago, and every few months has a kind of melt down. Not sure it would help if I go into details but it’s all to do with a six month affair I had 48 years ago. We have been together now 50 years now and he is so nasty verbally to me. He asks the same questions over and over for hours, I try to just keep my cool and answer honestly each time, but he tries to catch me out each time, it’s so hard to hear and to constantly repeat the same thing over and over and not be believed.nI know it’s not him, and tomorrow he will probably not remember it, but it’s so hard. Ime sitting here alone and in tears. We have great support in family, luckily as my kids were visiting during the first time, and he sent my sister a scathing e mail!! but they love him and understand the situation, GP, and nurses, there too, but it’s so hurtful. It tends to revolve around sex then escalates. Does anyone else have this type of problem, he is normally, kind and loving, but turns for no reason. Sometimes ime just at a loss. He is a big guy, I have felt threatened at times, but mainly i can talk to him calmly. Hence the involvement with the nurses and psychiatrist since the first time which was the worst and lasted 3 days, I was very frightened then. Most of the time he is ok apart from frustration and memory, but when it flares it really flares. Would a councillor help do you think??