I have a dilemma over what to do with my dad with regards to Alzheimer’s medication and would really appreciate other’s thoughts.
Even whilst in good mental health, my dad always had a lax attitude towards his health – the last time he voluntarily went to see the doctor was for a 50 year check up – he’s 70 now! He will let things get very bad and still not call for help – for example, he has ended up in hospital twice in recent years only because of my insistence he get help – once with a seriously infected wound which required intravenous antibiotics and once with pneumonia. Recently he has had an infected ulcer on his ankle which I only discovered by chance when he winced and I remembered to mention it to the GP at the last visit.
Anyway, this week I have had a call from his consultant following a recent home visit to my dad. He has now decided that my dad has mixed dementia – Vascular & Alzheimer’s. In light of this, he said he could prescribe medication, but that when he asked my dad during his visit, he’d declined this option. He asked me if I could have a word with my dad myself to see if he would agree to medication.
Now the reality is that if I can get my dad prescribed medication, he would unquestioningly take those tablets with the tablets he currently takes – he has no idea what medication he currently takes (vitamins & cholesterol tablets) and just compliantly takes whatever the carers tell him to take. However knowing my dad’s lax attitude to his health even when he was well, am I wrong to basically con him into taking medication??
I did ask him yesterday what he thought about taking tablets, but couldn’t get a sensible answer out of him – because he’s still a joker! And in complete denial there is anything wrong with him...Also his attention span was particularly poor and it was in one ear and straight out the other, so even if I constructed a convincing argument, he’d forgotten a minute later.
I am not expecting a miracle with medication, but if it can slow the progress, great. However, I keep wondering if I want that only for my own benefit – I wonder if I am being selfish...
Final point, I don’t know which of the medications the consultant is planning on prescribing if dad agrees except it is one for Alzheimer’s.
So do I gently coerce him into accepting medication (which I can easily do) or do I leave him be knowing he was never proactive about him health anyway?
PS. Sorry for such a long post!
Even whilst in good mental health, my dad always had a lax attitude towards his health – the last time he voluntarily went to see the doctor was for a 50 year check up – he’s 70 now! He will let things get very bad and still not call for help – for example, he has ended up in hospital twice in recent years only because of my insistence he get help – once with a seriously infected wound which required intravenous antibiotics and once with pneumonia. Recently he has had an infected ulcer on his ankle which I only discovered by chance when he winced and I remembered to mention it to the GP at the last visit.
Anyway, this week I have had a call from his consultant following a recent home visit to my dad. He has now decided that my dad has mixed dementia – Vascular & Alzheimer’s. In light of this, he said he could prescribe medication, but that when he asked my dad during his visit, he’d declined this option. He asked me if I could have a word with my dad myself to see if he would agree to medication.
Now the reality is that if I can get my dad prescribed medication, he would unquestioningly take those tablets with the tablets he currently takes – he has no idea what medication he currently takes (vitamins & cholesterol tablets) and just compliantly takes whatever the carers tell him to take. However knowing my dad’s lax attitude to his health even when he was well, am I wrong to basically con him into taking medication??
I did ask him yesterday what he thought about taking tablets, but couldn’t get a sensible answer out of him – because he’s still a joker! And in complete denial there is anything wrong with him...Also his attention span was particularly poor and it was in one ear and straight out the other, so even if I constructed a convincing argument, he’d forgotten a minute later.
I am not expecting a miracle with medication, but if it can slow the progress, great. However, I keep wondering if I want that only for my own benefit – I wonder if I am being selfish...
Final point, I don’t know which of the medications the consultant is planning on prescribing if dad agrees except it is one for Alzheimer’s.
So do I gently coerce him into accepting medication (which I can easily do) or do I leave him be knowing he was never proactive about him health anyway?
PS. Sorry for such a long post!