Hello to you all. I wonder if any of you can give me advice please? I am waiting to hear from the Court of Protection as to whether I have Deputyship for my Mum who has Vascular Dementia. I have no siblings, father or close family. Mum had a scan and sigmoidoscopy recently, which showed that she had a huge rectal polyp and a suspect area on her bowel which is probably malignant. During the hospital consultation, I was also informed that she had probable Acute Myeloid Leukaemia in June '15, which I knew nothing about, and for which, she has received no treatment or further investigations! She is now due to go for a colonoscopy under sedation in 48hrs. I am taking her and staying with her, as she will not have it done otherwise. Mum has no short-term memory and she has forgotten everything from the last 20 years. She is unable to read books, keep track of film or TV or do anything that once gave her pleasure. She is also now incontinent and her mobility is severely compromised. She is a retired highly intelligent teacher.
If her tests are positive for cancer, I am worried that they will decide to operate and do not want to put my Mum through this but I am worried that I will have no say in this. Mum has always stated that if she 'lost her mind' she would not want to go on, and she will not cope with a stoma for a colostomy or ileostomy. She would be mortified. Her GP won't discuss things with me, I was not informed of the leukaemia, and due to patient confidentiality, without a POA or Deputyship, I am really concerned that they will not involve me in my Mum's care taking into account her best interests. Do I have any rights? How can I find out any more? I am lost! Any advice would be really gratefully received. Sorry about the long post. Thank you, in advance.
If her tests are positive for cancer, I am worried that they will decide to operate and do not want to put my Mum through this but I am worried that I will have no say in this. Mum has always stated that if she 'lost her mind' she would not want to go on, and she will not cope with a stoma for a colostomy or ileostomy. She would be mortified. Her GP won't discuss things with me, I was not informed of the leukaemia, and due to patient confidentiality, without a POA or Deputyship, I am really concerned that they will not involve me in my Mum's care taking into account her best interests. Do I have any rights? How can I find out any more? I am lost! Any advice would be really gratefully received. Sorry about the long post. Thank you, in advance.