1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. snuffyuk

    snuffyuk Registered User

    Jul 8, 2004
    188
    Near Bristol
    I am stuffed, tired, knackered, exhausted, fed up, had enough and more.
    snuffyuk
     
  2. Sheila

    Sheila Registered User

    Oct 23, 2003
    2,259
    West Sussex
    Hi Snuff, take it you've had a sh12 day then? Here's hoping tomorrow is easier. Hope you get some sleep tonight cause that helps. Any chance of a bit of a break tomorrow? If not, get on line and have a good moan and share session. Love, She. XX
     
  3. thompsonsom

    thompsonsom Registered User

    Jul 4, 2004
    97
    halifax
    hi

    Hope today is a better day for you.

    janice
     
  4. Jude

    Jude Registered User

    Dear Snuffy,

    Hope the sunshine cheers you up today. Try and have a rest if you can - and share some of the blues with us too.

    Jude
     
  5. Jude

    Jude Registered User

    Dear Snuffy,

    Have a look at Fact Sheet No 523. This gives useful information about 'caring for ourselves'.

    I've only just had time to browse through the Fact Sheets and have found them to be very helpful.

    Best wishes,

    Jude
     
  6. Sheila

    Sheila Registered User

    Oct 23, 2003
    2,259
    West Sussex
    Snuffy, how goes the day then? Love, She. XX
     
  7. Charlie

    Charlie Registered User

    Apr 1, 2003
    161
    Hi Snuffy,

    Hope your week improves. How are you coping these days, you sound pretty drained?

    My dad has just started going to a day care centre, just the one day a week at the moment, but it has made an amazing difference. Don't think my mum ever realised how much a little break would help out.

    Are you getting any support at the moment?

    Cheers
    Charlie
     
  8. barraf

    barraf Registered User

    Mar 27, 2004
    308
    Huddersfield
    Hello Snuffy

    Join the club, aren't we all? but keep on posting your moans, it's a great help.

    Tomorrow is another day and you never know what may befall, hopefully something better.

    Cheers barraf.
     
  9. frazer

    frazer Registered User

    Sep 9, 2004
    42
    london
    stupid

    its my first time here, i've just browsed some of the messages, and now i cant stop crying. i'm sitting at my desk feeling completely powerless. i just dont know what to do. have to make big decisions by today - no good choices - so much guilt. Just helpful to know i'm not alone, in a strange sort of way.
     
  10. CraigC

    CraigC Registered User

    Mar 21, 2003
    6,630
    London
    Hi Frazer,

    Sorry to hear you are upset.

    We've all had a lot of hard decisions to make so you can be sure a lot of us know how you feel - I know that probably doesn't help too much. But, if you need to discuss any issues please feel free to ask anything!

    You are so right that it makes a big difference not feeling so alone!

    take care
    Craig
     
  11. frazer

    frazer Registered User

    Sep 9, 2004
    42
    london
    thanks

    thanks for that. its the first time i've been able to cry since my mum died earlier this year - so that progress anyway.
     
  12. Jude

    Jude Registered User

    Dear Fraser,

    Have a really good cry! You'll feel pretty drained for a while, but after that you'll feel a whole lot better about things. It's good for clearing out the cobwebs. I do it a lot, believe me....

    As Craig said, if you'd like to share some of your anxieties, then please don't hesitate to do that. You will always get a sympathetic and empathetic rely.

    The whole idea of Talking Point is to share the immense problems that we all experience in caring for our loved ones. It is very helpful to know that others are coping with similar problems - and that you aren't alone. Some days are seriously blah, some days are better than blah - and some days can be a breeze in comparison.

    If in doubt, just post!

    Kindest regards,

    Jude
     
  13. JoJo

    JoJo Registered User

    Sep 25, 2003
    38
    Shropshire
    Hi Frazer

    If its any consolation I did exactly the same my first time here. I have been reading these messages furtively and not posting for months - only finding my voice recently.

    I cried ever night for months scared of what was going to happen to my dear old dad. But this site is invaluable because you can reach out and link up with so many people in a similar situation.

    Dementia is one of the cruellest diseases going - robbing people of their very essence - and I personally think more should be done to find a solution and care for those suffering. It may be some time given our beloved health minister's lack of compassion and understanding.

    Take heart that there is always someone else on here going through the same.

    Jo x
     
  14. Sheila

    Sheila Registered User

    Oct 23, 2003
    2,259
    West Sussex
    Hi Frazer, my heart goes out to you having been in your shoes. Take it a day at a time, step at a time, and problem/decision at a time. It's all we any of us can do when dealing with this awful disease. Get on line when ever you need us, we are all fighting the same fight, you are not alone and we all care about each other on here. Thinking of you, love, She. XX
     
  15. frazer

    frazer Registered User

    Sep 9, 2004
    42
    london
    thank you

    thank you so much for your support. its so hard to speak about these things. it was novel first and people were interested and concerned, but after a while even those close can't hear about it any more! how do you cope? Sometimes i feel i want to invent new problems or sickness for my dad (not that there aren't enough) just to be able to talk about it in a fresh way. but the reality is that its the same relentless dreadful thing. and you have to fight and fight just to get basic help or information. anyway, good to talk!
     
  16. Chris

    Chris Registered User

    May 20, 2003
    243
    You OK Snuffy?

    Dear Snuffy

    Hope you are OK.

    May not now be for you just now but there are people in the Bristol area (where I live too) that may be able to offer some assistance - a listening ear, some info , sometimes meeting up with others in same situation can help you feel better even if situation itself doesnt change.

    In addition to the great crowd on this Forum - of course !!

    Keep in touch.

    Best Wishes Chris
     
  17. snuffyuk

    snuffyuk Registered User

    Jul 8, 2004
    188
    Near Bristol
    so tired

    message field completed!
     
  18. CraigC

    CraigC Registered User

    Mar 21, 2003
    6,630
    London
    Hi Snuffy,

    Remember, we are always here, but if you need to speak to someone and get some help, please contact the Alzheimer's Help Line...

    The helpline is open from 8.30am to 6.30pm Monday to Friday.
    The number to dial is 0845 300 0336


    The Samaritans also provide confidential emotional support, 24 hours a day. They are there if you if you're worried about something, feel upset or confused, or you just want to talk to someone.

    24 hours a day, 7 days a week, every single day of the year.

    National numbers
    In the UK dial 08457 90 90 90, for the cost of a local call.
    In the Republic of Ireland dial 1850 60 90 90, for the cost of a local call.

    Email jo@samaritans.org

    Website http://www.samaritans.org


    Take Care
    Craig
     
  19. Sheila

    Sheila Registered User

    Oct 23, 2003
    2,259
    West Sussex
    Hi Snuffy, R U OK? really would like to hear from you, I know how down you can get and it does help to share. Please contact us soon or PM me. Thinking of you, Love She. XX
     
  20. snuffyuk

    snuffyuk Registered User

    Jul 8, 2004
    188
    Near Bristol
    thanku for all mssges im fine no probs so u can stop postin.
     

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