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Discussion in 'End of life care' started by Slugsta, Oct 26, 2017.

  1. Scouts girl

    Scouts girl Registered User

    Jan 18, 2017
    My thoughts are with you slugstar. May you now find peace and rest after your long vigil with your mum and be so reassured that you did all you could for her. Love and best wishes xxx
  2. Rosnpton

    Rosnpton Registered User

    Mar 19, 2017
    Sorry to read that your mum has now passed. You must be exhausted from your constant vigil . You need some time to yourself to jsut sleep and rest.
    Ros x
  3. notsogooddtr

    notsogooddtr Registered User

    Jul 2, 2011
    Mum's and daughters-it can be such a complex relationship.You cared for her so well and for so long.Time for you now.Take care.
  4. Glofaxi

    Glofaxi Registered User

    Nov 5, 2017
    East Yorkshire
    Thought about you and your mum every day. RIP to your mum and LIP (live in peace) to you. Hugs.
  5. Lavender45

    Lavender45 Registered User

    Jun 7, 2015
    I wanted to add my condolences to you Slugsta. You have been so incredibly strong. I hope you have some time to rest up and recharge your own batteries you must be exhausted. X
  6. mjw1304

    mjw1304 Registered User

    Oct 9, 2017
    Sending you a big hug. Take lots of time now to mourn the mum you lost many years ago due to this dreadful disease as well as the mum she became, as although two totally different people, you loved them both xxxxx
  7. Lorna44

    Lorna44 Registered User

    Jul 16, 2016
    My thoughts are with you..... big hugs and be kind to yourself. Lorna x
  8. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    We have seen the Funeral Director today and have an appointment with the registrar on Friday. I am lucky in that Mum's flat was emptied and returned to the Housing Association when she went into the CH, so there are just a few clothes and some knick-knacks to deal with now.

    It feels rather strange at home as we moved here after Mum went into the CH and she never saw the place - so there are no memories of her here.

    Thank you all for your kindness and support.
  9. Amy in the US

    Amy in the US Registered User

    Feb 28, 2015
  10. Ann Mac

    Ann Mac Registered User

    Oct 17, 2013
    Slugsta, I am so sorry for your loss hun, but also so glad that it was peaceful for your Mum at the end. I hope now that you are getting a chance to rest and recover - you have been so strong. I couldn't get onto TP to see how things were while we were away, but I thought of you often. It's tough when the relationship with your Mum wasn't aways the best, but you definitely have nothing that the guilt monster can torment you with - you just couldn't have done more to support your mum, all the way through this horrible journey. Take some time for you now, sending you massive {{{{{hugs}}}} xxxx
  11. jugglingmum

    jugglingmum Registered User

    Jan 5, 2014
    I meant to say the other day, that my father died in 1994, and we moved house in 95, I was quite sad for a few weeks afterwards that he hadn't seen our house, he would have been really happy for us, and then 6 months later we got a new 3 piece suite (money was spent on canoes at the time, we'd tipped the old one when we moved) and I was really sad he didn't get to see it, as he would have really liked it (we were mid 20s so still getting settled in life - although still in same house)

    Oddly when we next replaced the sofa, asked mum if she liked it, as she'd not commented, and she said 'oh I thought you'd had that a while so I hadn't said anything' - didn't twig at the time this was an early sign of dementia that she couldn't remember what we had so assumed we'd always had it. (sorry rambled off)
  12. Harrys daughter

    Harrys daughter Registered User

    Jul 12, 2016
    Dear slugsta iv only just read your sad news as iv been awall from tp for quite a while
    My heart feels heavy for you as it's coming up to a yr since my dad died the gm can hit at the most unwanted times I think it's something we all have to deal with irrespective of the love and care we have given our loved one enough is never enough so I will lend you my big stick with a nail in it to bash that gm you may keep it for a while.......im thinking of you sending big hugs as no words ease the pain xxx
  13. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    Thanks for the loan of the pointy stick Hd!

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