Well.....mum has now been in hospital for just over 4 weeks following a fall while she was in respite for a few days in December.......she broke her hip.
I spoke to a doctor yesterday who believed that with the right care package in place then she would eventually be able to come home but she is unable to walk or weight bear on the affected leg.
Today I saw the occupational therapist who painted a much bleaker picture.......
At present it takes 2 people and a hoist to get mum in and out of bed......
I would be provided with a hoist but the OT thinks mum will need carers in at least 4 times a day to cope with her requirements.....
She really doesn't think it would be a practical arrangement for mum or me.......
Today after getting mum out of bed she was put in her chair,fell asleep and fell off the chair......luckily there was no damage but if this were to happen at home and I was on my own with her it would be hard for me to manage.........
The OT strongly recommends full time 24/7 nursing care in a nursing home.....and that it would the best thing for her.......
I feel conflicts of emotions......On the one hand I wanted to decide when mum went into care......on the other hand I'm glad I'm being advised that this is the right course to take.......
I always wanted to care for mum as long as I could but ....yes I feel it is the time now.......At least I know she will have everything she needs and I just can't provide that for her any more......
This evening I have a very heavy heart............
I spoke to a doctor yesterday who believed that with the right care package in place then she would eventually be able to come home but she is unable to walk or weight bear on the affected leg.
Today I saw the occupational therapist who painted a much bleaker picture.......
At present it takes 2 people and a hoist to get mum in and out of bed......
I would be provided with a hoist but the OT thinks mum will need carers in at least 4 times a day to cope with her requirements.....
She really doesn't think it would be a practical arrangement for mum or me.......
Today after getting mum out of bed she was put in her chair,fell asleep and fell off the chair......luckily there was no damage but if this were to happen at home and I was on my own with her it would be hard for me to manage.........
The OT strongly recommends full time 24/7 nursing care in a nursing home.....and that it would the best thing for her.......
I feel conflicts of emotions......On the one hand I wanted to decide when mum went into care......on the other hand I'm glad I'm being advised that this is the right course to take.......
I always wanted to care for mum as long as I could but ....yes I feel it is the time now.......At least I know she will have everything she needs and I just can't provide that for her any more......
This evening I have a very heavy heart............