We have had a bad couple of days! MIL wants to go back to Ireland for 'one last time.' As she is incapable now of making such arrangements we have spent hours trying to fulfill her wishes. As this was not possible we found the best compromise we could [not the exact spot she wanted to be] Yesterday my husband told her what we had managed to find and asked should he book. She said she was not sure she could afford it! She is very well off and this was just some sort of excuse. We then said that we would take her to the travel agent and they would tell her exactly how much it would cost and then she could make her decision. She then took offence as she said we were forcing her into making a decision, we explained that we could not make a booking without her consent. I didn't want to go in the first place as I think it is going to be a nightmare but could not deny her a final visit. Then she turns on the 'poor little me act.' She is unable to leave the house without one of us, refuses all help from anyone else, dictates where and when we go anywhere. She is frail  but strong. Today we have had more than half a dozen phone calls and spent over two hours trying to explain. At one point my husband was getting so frustrated I took the phone off him and cut her off! She phoned back straight away. We are in a no win situation where she wants to go, she does not want to pay the going rate, she wants us to call all her relatives to say we are going but will not commit herself. She then tries the emotional blackmail by saying that she is going to dig the garden, try and walk to the shops etc all things she is not capable of doing but just to get us worrying and so get her own way. This time she is not going to get it! All the upset causes her to not eat, sleep and her back to hurt according to her. She even admitted that Dad had always let her have her own way! One minute she looks as though she is at deaths door and the next she is bouncing like Tigger! Got that off my chest and once again feel better, thanks TP!