After having a couple of stable weeks my mam is at a stage now where she just seems very tired all the time and is sleeping deeply in bed for up to 16 hours at a time. Last night my sister and i went to see her about 6 o clock and she was asleep in the chair - she had just got up at 4.30p.m. from 4.00 a.m. We don't get much conversation from her at all now and when we talk to her or ask her a question she sometimes doesn't respond at all. Is this normal in the advanced stage of vascular dementia. We were told she would probably get a chest infection or something but now we are thinking will she go to bed one night and just not wake up. It feels she is getting further and further away from us and i feel we have lost her already even though she is still with us. I just feel scared and quite down at the moment missing her so much and thinking about what the future holds.