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Registered User
Sep 12, 2015
Hi everyone this is my first time on this site so I hope you all can be a little bit patient with me. My dad was diagnosed with vascular dementia back in March of this year. He has always been a very intelligent man and he was always able to answer any questions about anything. He was known as the God father of the family. He had always worked very hard throughout his life and our lives as we have grown up. A true gentleman to everyone, but also very opinionated about what he believed in. My mum has been a carer for the elderly until my dad's health went down hill 4yrs ago, she then became his carer. I believe she cannot come to terms with his condition as it is personal to her and not like her job was. I have tried to collect as much information about vascular dementia for her but she has put it to the back burner. I could continue but as I have just joined I really don't know how or what to continue with. My main question is If anyone could please give me some advice on how to go about helping her to come to terms as my dad is getting worse each day. I'm so sorry for going on. Thank you for taking the time reading this message :)


Registered User
Nov 28, 2005
Hello Malley and welcome to Talking Point, although it is sad you need to be here.

Firstly I wonder if this factsheet will help you and your Mother:

When you are ready you could start a new Thread in the I care for someone with dementia section which is here:

I am sure that there you will get loads of support from other members who have similar experiences.

I also wonder if your Mother would benefit from contacting the local branch of the Alzheimer's Society. They often have Dementia Support Workers and also run 'cafes' which are support meetings for sufferers and/or carers. You can find your local branch here:
Don't worry if the branch seems a distance away as they have support groups over a wide area.

I hope that helps.
Best wishes