Thanks Mal for getting the thread back into 'supportive territory' which I think is what TP is all about. Northolm asked a perfectly reasonable question. I can't quite understand all the heat, from both sides of the argument.
Oooooo.........that seems a little harsh considering some of the folks who have posted have already been caring for their loved one for over 10 years.
Definition: A fair weather friend is only a friend when circumstances are pleasant or profitable. At the first sign of trouble, these capricious, disloyal friends will drop their relationship with you.
As I said..........a little harsh.
But I agree.........each to his own.
Thanks Mal for getting the thread back into 'supportive territory' which I think is what TP is all about. Northolm asked a perfectly reasonable question. I can't quite understand all the heat, from both sides of the argument.
I can see I haven`t helped by my post and apologise if I`ve caused anyone distress.
I can only say I posted in sentiment . I`d give anything to have my husband back and be able to care for him. I haven`t needed any anyone to take his place since he died and I certainly didn`t need anyone to take his place while he was alive.
There are many Threads on TP about `invisibles`; those friends and families who become absentees when dementia strikes. They are the fair weather people.
I`m guilty of comparing them to those contemplating a relationship outside marriage. It is only my point of view and Nordholm123 did ask for opinions.
Once again I apologise. There is a place for all opinions and all needs. There are no rights and wrongs, it`s a matter of personal choice.
I can only say I posted in sentiment . I`d give anything to have my husband back and be able to care for him. I haven`t needed any anyone to take his place since he died and I certainly didn`t need anyone to take his place while he was alive.
There are many Threads on TP about `invisibles`; those friends and families who become absentees when dementia strikes. They are the fair weather people.
I`m guilty of comparing them to those contemplating a relationship outside marriage. It is only my point of view and Nordholm123 did ask for opinions.
Once again I apologise. There is a place for all opinions and all needs. There are no rights and wrongs, it`s a matter of personal choice.
I agree gringo poor dementia suffers just an excuse to commit adultery
Probably all the replies to this thread are people who don’t themselves have a dementia diagnoses
But I expect there hundreds who read these threads who Do suffer with dementia would be a bit shocked and upset when they see the loved one comments
though often difficult to findJust for the record other types of men are available
K
Should both be denied a 'normal' life and marriage because one of them is ill? Is that not a terrible waste of two lives?
Does this not work on the assumption that you have to be part of a couple to be normal? I have been very happy to be part of a couple but now that has ended, does it mean I am wasting my life on my own? I think not.
I certainly can't envisage men queuing up in the future, to woo me, what with my arthritis, bunions, dodgy knees and feet and rotator-cuffed right arm, but should they, I'll let you know.
One way of looking at it is to remember that when it comes to divorce law,if one is separated on the grounds you have not lived together for 5 years then you would be free to look for happiness as the marriage is deemed to have broken down.