Huge pressure for everyone here in different ways and for different reasons to make this Christmas special (or at least bearable) …..
As well as ‘gifts’ which I know has already been mooted, wonder if people could share ideas about how they intend to ‘celebrate’ Christmas in appropriate ways that is meaningful to the ‘sufferer’ AND balancing the needs of family and friends….
To share my circumstances … Christmas Day will be at ‘mum’s’ with only me, hubby and son … OK, so me and hubby can cope with being ‘excluded’ from the extended family gatherings and look forward to a bottle of Pinot something or other when we get back home …mum (hopefully) would be happy if we only had beans on toast for Christmas dinner as long as we are there ….. but for my son?????
I came up with doing a ‘Treasure Hunt’ ….. first did this several years back when said son had first ‘twigged’ that we had no chimney rolleyes: ) so I’ve promised I will arrange one at ‘Grandma’s’ (and as none of his peers will be there to see his ‘street-cred’ destroyed he’s ‘up for it’……)
(Interesting thought occurred to me - and I apologise if it sounds flippant - is that it will make a change ME purposely hiding things for people to find instead of mum doing it unintentionally!!!!! Who knows what might be unearthed along the way - a lot her missing cash hopefully )
Mum has broken my heart by saying ‘Just let me see the presents and then leave me to my TV programmes'…… That can't be what she really wants surely....????
I thought WE felt isolated….. and how guilty will I feel when I go to hubby’s family on Boxing Day … ‘leaving her to her TV’?????
Any ideas…..?????
Thanks, Karen, x
As well as ‘gifts’ which I know has already been mooted, wonder if people could share ideas about how they intend to ‘celebrate’ Christmas in appropriate ways that is meaningful to the ‘sufferer’ AND balancing the needs of family and friends….
To share my circumstances … Christmas Day will be at ‘mum’s’ with only me, hubby and son … OK, so me and hubby can cope with being ‘excluded’ from the extended family gatherings and look forward to a bottle of Pinot something or other when we get back home …mum (hopefully) would be happy if we only had beans on toast for Christmas dinner as long as we are there ….. but for my son?????
I came up with doing a ‘Treasure Hunt’ ….. first did this several years back when said son had first ‘twigged’ that we had no chimney rolleyes: ) so I’ve promised I will arrange one at ‘Grandma’s’ (and as none of his peers will be there to see his ‘street-cred’ destroyed he’s ‘up for it’……)
(Interesting thought occurred to me - and I apologise if it sounds flippant - is that it will make a change ME purposely hiding things for people to find instead of mum doing it unintentionally!!!!! Who knows what might be unearthed along the way - a lot her missing cash hopefully )
Mum has broken my heart by saying ‘Just let me see the presents and then leave me to my TV programmes'…… That can't be what she really wants surely....????
I thought WE felt isolated….. and how guilty will I feel when I go to hubby’s family on Boxing Day … ‘leaving her to her TV’?????
Any ideas…..?????
Thanks, Karen, x