My mum lives alone but I do her shopping and have gradually taken over more and more jobs, mainly paying bills etc because she gets confused with money and can't get out of the house alone. She has a home help once a week who helps her change her bed linen and does a little cleaning although mum insists she can cope. She can wash, dress and feed herself OK and can see absolutely no reason why she should move from the house she's lived in for the last 60 years. She told me she would never speak to me again if I put her in a home. My problem is that she keeps arranging things without telling me. She sees a wasp and and calls out the pest control people. She reports that her boiler isn't working and engineer can't find anything wrong. I made a dentist appointment for her and they said she made an appointment for yesterday but didn't turn up, then said she's made a number of appointments and hasn't turned up. She won't tell me when she makes these appointments because she thinks there's no reason to and likes to think she is managing her own affairs. I can't take her telephone away from her, has anyone else had this problem?