My parents moved in with my family ealier this year. We sold their property and built an annexe here. They had their own privacy and facilities but we were just a door away - instead of a 15 minute drive. My father had a stroke and has lost his speech as a result. Hence the confusion with mum and her dementia. Mum has had to now go into a Nursing home and our local Social Services have now stated we have to pay the full amount of her funding (600-00 per week). Dad was delighted to be in a position this year to have a few thousand spare and was even more thrilled to be able to pay for our wedding, which as an only child he and mum have always wanted to do. Wedding booked and things organised - yes. But the Social Services are saying he cannot pay now. I have not broken the news to my dad yet - he will be mortified. I fear a further stroke through the stress for him. Any advice ? We are all having sleepness nights with the worry - we dont have the money for mums care and fear the future.