Ok me again saying something that may be unpopular and not for the first time.
You guys all have too much respect for the white/blue/whatever colour uniforms, if it feels wrong then it is wrong no matter how qualified the person telling you may be.
I followed the ambulance when my wife was taken from hospital to a secure unit so I could be there when she arrived, about 2 in the morning after she'd been sectioned and all the paperwork was done and stayed for a couple of hours.
Next day 2pm (start of visiting time) I arrived and they did look a bit "concerned" let's say, she was sat on the floor in isolation (but supervised) eating pizza and chips with her hands and snarling like an animal, 10 minutes later I had her sat in a chair and being fed, half an hour we ventured into the day room.
After 6 months on the secure unit she was moved to EMI nursing, they (prearranged) called me when she left the secure unit so I could be at the care home when she arrived there and settle her in to her new home.
I can't believe this "don't visit" stuff, I think it shows a total lack of respect for the person who should be the most involved, it's the exact opposite of my experience.
The nine days Rosebay mentions, by that time I'd been interviewed (in an informal way) by half a dozen people; senior ward staff, OT, psychologist and all the rest and had the "newbie" chats with most of the carers.
Sorry you guys but you respect the system too much and in this case it seems like a pretty poor system.
Advise is specific not generic and the not visiting isn't working for Rosebay or her husband in this case.
I'd go with my heart telling me what was right not my head telling me anyone in a uniform knows what's better for my wife than me, after over 40 years.
K
You guys all have too much respect for the white/blue/whatever colour uniforms, if it feels wrong then it is wrong no matter how qualified the person telling you may be.
I followed the ambulance when my wife was taken from hospital to a secure unit so I could be there when she arrived, about 2 in the morning after she'd been sectioned and all the paperwork was done and stayed for a couple of hours.
Next day 2pm (start of visiting time) I arrived and they did look a bit "concerned" let's say, she was sat on the floor in isolation (but supervised) eating pizza and chips with her hands and snarling like an animal, 10 minutes later I had her sat in a chair and being fed, half an hour we ventured into the day room.
After 6 months on the secure unit she was moved to EMI nursing, they (prearranged) called me when she left the secure unit so I could be at the care home when she arrived there and settle her in to her new home.
I can't believe this "don't visit" stuff, I think it shows a total lack of respect for the person who should be the most involved, it's the exact opposite of my experience.
The nine days Rosebay mentions, by that time I'd been interviewed (in an informal way) by half a dozen people; senior ward staff, OT, psychologist and all the rest and had the "newbie" chats with most of the carers.
Sorry you guys but you respect the system too much and in this case it seems like a pretty poor system.
Advise is specific not generic and the not visiting isn't working for Rosebay or her husband in this case.
I'd go with my heart telling me what was right not my head telling me anyone in a uniform knows what's better for my wife than me, after over 40 years.
K