Thank you G
Thank you , My goodness , two loved ones in a home. At least they are together. Seeing mum in such circumstances breaks my heart . Only three months ago we were out looking around garden centers and eating lunch together. The cruelty of the way things happen. I thought I would be prepared . But it seems so different when it happens and the guilt of the decisions having been made. SHe was poorly in hospital but hoped she would recover . Over the last two months I have watched her deteriorate no longer the will to live , nothing to do or think about she is now lost to the institution . She loved crafts and coloring , with an instance she now does nothing but sit in a chair and stare. She is suffering delusions and visions , to frightened to return to her room , tells me there are animals in her bed. Just to heartbreaking for words alone . I am a very strong person and at most have been able to wave a magic wand to make things better. I seem to have lost that now , I to broken with the system taking over. I am now lost in paperwork , trying to save what she and my late father have worked and saved for. But this week with phone calls from social and assessments that seem fruitless and non compassionate and no chance it seems for CHC , god knows how poorly you have to be before that entitlement rears its head . I would think by research and personal activity that you need to be dying before any of this can be applied. I will look at TP , just reading articles by others has helped , I already feel less alone …..Thanks again G x
Hi Metzie, so sorry about your Mum. I can't offer help on the funding, but having taken both Mum and Dad to a care home this week (self funding), I do feel for you. It's awful isn't it, having to deal with the emotion of dropping them off at a care home whilst having to deal with all the other stressful stuff. There are lots of people in TP who I'm sure will be able to offer support and more specific advice, so keep posting. Best wishes, Gx
Thank you , My goodness , two loved ones in a home. At least they are together. Seeing mum in such circumstances breaks my heart . Only three months ago we were out looking around garden centers and eating lunch together. The cruelty of the way things happen. I thought I would be prepared . But it seems so different when it happens and the guilt of the decisions having been made. SHe was poorly in hospital but hoped she would recover . Over the last two months I have watched her deteriorate no longer the will to live , nothing to do or think about she is now lost to the institution . She loved crafts and coloring , with an instance she now does nothing but sit in a chair and stare. She is suffering delusions and visions , to frightened to return to her room , tells me there are animals in her bed. Just to heartbreaking for words alone . I am a very strong person and at most have been able to wave a magic wand to make things better. I seem to have lost that now , I to broken with the system taking over. I am now lost in paperwork , trying to save what she and my late father have worked and saved for. But this week with phone calls from social and assessments that seem fruitless and non compassionate and no chance it seems for CHC , god knows how poorly you have to be before that entitlement rears its head . I would think by research and personal activity that you need to be dying before any of this can be applied. I will look at TP , just reading articles by others has helped , I already feel less alone …..Thanks again G x