1. Mollygoose

    Mollygoose Registered User

    Dec 19, 2014
    52
    Lincolnshire
    Still can't believe it ! My mother has died 8days ago ! I was her main carer I fed her and changed her pad just like a baby saw her three times a day and ended up spoon feeding her ! Dementia is a long goodbye ! And then suddenly it happens the person you have loved and protected has slipped away ! Then there was all the sorting out of her things in the flat ! Such a hectic time ! It's all done now and the funeral is on Friday ! I feel so sad but at the same time I know she couldn't carry on and was wasting away ! I just need now to get back to work and get on with my life as I am 64yrs old myself ! Not sure how to carry on living but I must and will ! Time will be a healer !
     
  2. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,168
    Merseyside
    I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you.
     
  3. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,952
    Suffolk
    Time is a healer, Molly. Sorry about your loss. It will be a big change,but mum is now at rest. (((Hugs)))
     
  4. Babymare01

    Babymare01 Registered User

    Apr 22, 2015
    300
    In my thoughts xxx
     
  5. HillyBilly

    HillyBilly Registered User

    Dec 21, 2015
    1,948
    Ireland
    So sorry Molly - take care of yourself x
     
  6. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    So sorry to hear of your sad loss. You have been a wonderful and devoted daughter, and your beloved Mam is now at peace, and free from pain xxx
     
  7. Otiruz

    Otiruz Registered User

    Nov 28, 2015
    255
    Kent
    Oh Molly - what a wonderful caring daughter you have been. It can become a privilege to care at that level for a parent. I truly hope in time you can gather yourself and live a life your mother would be happy and proud of. My thoughts are with you.
     
  8. rajahh

    rajahh Registered User

    Aug 29, 2008
    2,796
    Hertfordshire
    It is hard Molly, but you are right, time is a healer, but o not try to hurry that time. It will seem stationary for some time, do not despair. You are young enough for your brain to not let you stand still.

    Jeannette
     
  9. cragmaid

    cragmaid Registered User

    Oct 18, 2010
    7,963
    North East England
    So sorry for your loss...... it is so difficult to relinquish the caring role. I do keep wondering what shall I do today? Good luck for Friday. I hope it all goes as it should. You've done a grand job.x.x.
     
  10. sunray

    sunray Registered User

    Sep 21, 2008
    1,424
    Female
    East Coast of Australia
    So sorry Molly, I know how much work we put into being a carer and then suddenly that is over and it is like losing a job as well as losing the person we love. Go easy on yourself for a while. I will be thinking of you on Friday, hope all goes well.

    Sue.
     
  11. jorgieporgie

    jorgieporgie Registered User

    Mar 2, 2016
    1,985
    YORKSHIRE
    Hope everything goes well on Friday Mollygoose, accept my sincere condolences, thinking of you.x
     
  12. Jinx

    Jinx Registered User

    Mar 13, 2014
    2,333
    Pontypool
    So sorry for your loss. xx


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  13. Mollygoose

    Mollygoose Registered User

    Dec 19, 2014
    52
    Lincolnshire
    Today

    Today is the day we lay my mother to rest ! I can honestly say I did my best at being a carer ! Iv had 3long talks with her as she lay there in the funeral parlour ! She s not there just her shell ! So this morning it's her funeral and we will give her a bloody good send off ! Mother lived to be 90and enjoyed life ! So now I owe it to her to do the same so after today it's onward and upwards ! X x so mam wherever you are carry on flirting and il will do the same x
     

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