Hello
My mother-in-law (79 y.o.) has Alzheimers and I thing is at the end stages she does not respond, walk (when we lift her with great difficulty she drags her feet) or hear. She only says 1-2 words and she sleeps most of the time.
She has a rush which despite so many creams does not go, she scratches her arms and tummy to the point of drawing blood.She is diabetic and takes medications and with right food we are controlling.
My wife is looking after her in our home but I feel that my wife is so tired physically and mentally that before long she will have a breakdown.
My father in law who is 88 y.o. is wealthy but refuses to spend any money for any carers or alterations to his flat (in block of flats for elderly) and he insists for us to take her back to their flat for him to care for her.He does not come to our house to see her and always end up having an argument with my wife as to why we are not taking her back to their flat
Can you please advise if my wife can take any action or get any help to look after her poor mum who deserves better at the end of her life?
My father in law can just about look after himself, the flat is not clean he refuses to put the hot water on and only aim in life is to save money. He is the register carer and due to his wealth social services cannot help my mother in law free of charge (rightly so).
I feel with some help me and my wife we will be able to give the care her mum deserves but on the other hand we cannot upset an 88y.o man out of respect and fear of making him ill by taking drastic steps involving social services.
PLEASE ADVICE
Thank you
My mother-in-law (79 y.o.) has Alzheimers and I thing is at the end stages she does not respond, walk (when we lift her with great difficulty she drags her feet) or hear. She only says 1-2 words and she sleeps most of the time.
She has a rush which despite so many creams does not go, she scratches her arms and tummy to the point of drawing blood.She is diabetic and takes medications and with right food we are controlling.
My wife is looking after her in our home but I feel that my wife is so tired physically and mentally that before long she will have a breakdown.
My father in law who is 88 y.o. is wealthy but refuses to spend any money for any carers or alterations to his flat (in block of flats for elderly) and he insists for us to take her back to their flat for him to care for her.He does not come to our house to see her and always end up having an argument with my wife as to why we are not taking her back to their flat
Can you please advise if my wife can take any action or get any help to look after her poor mum who deserves better at the end of her life?
My father in law can just about look after himself, the flat is not clean he refuses to put the hot water on and only aim in life is to save money. He is the register carer and due to his wealth social services cannot help my mother in law free of charge (rightly so).
I feel with some help me and my wife we will be able to give the care her mum deserves but on the other hand we cannot upset an 88y.o man out of respect and fear of making him ill by taking drastic steps involving social services.
PLEASE ADVICE
Thank you
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