Hi wifenotcarer. How are you today
i came across one of your posts while I was looking back at my history on TP. Last year it was and you were commenting on paying the fees for the home. You spoke of not worrying about how much it was as the council would eventually take over anyway.
i wish I could have your attitude towards this and be a bit more rational. Care homes are struggling and I wonder how long it will be till Bridget's home is in financial difficulties. I worry about this and I’m miserable anyway not having Bridget here.
I know we all handle the situation differently and I admire your resilience and composure. I, on the other hand, am fighting depression over this and cannot come to terms with any of it.
i also know there’s no magic bullet and the whole situation is confused by Coronavirus. I just wish I could have some mental respite from the whole business, one day without the misery of it all.
peter
Ah Peter. I had a wee laugh at you praising my 'resilience and composure'. I must be doing a good job of going into 'hostess mode' when I post on here, as I do during Skype Calls with OH and my family. If you had access to the dark recesses of my mind you would find a very different scenario. I think the reason I appear to cope so well is that I have suffered from chronic depression for most of my life, which has forced me to become adept at putting a brave, cheerful face on in public - I can fool most of the people, most of the time.
When I am at a low ebb, I force myself to do something productive. I reckon that I can't feel any worse, so I do the jobs - changing the bed, washing the floor, car or windows, digging and weeding, sawing logs, knitting and making jam, which I really hate. Then at least when the dark cloud lifts, I have something to show for it. When I feel better, I can enjoy the things I like to do- sowing, planting and harvesting, collecting firewood, cooking, playing computer games, Sudoku, crosswords. (Unfortunately no chance of swimming, or a wee run to the seaside at the moment.)
I follow your posts on TP and often you put into words exactly how I am feeling, especially at the moment re the torment that is Skype Calls or through the window waving with our beloved spouses. You are new to this depression business, based on my experience I cannot promise that you will be 'cured' but I know that, in time you will develop ways of coping.
As to the worries about the Care Home, I believe that this dreadful pandemic will lead to a long overdue, complete rethink of funding Care for the Elderly. The tax payers and the Government will have to step up to the mark re proper funding. There have been demands from all sides for Care Homes to be taken under the wing of Social Services or the NHS, not left to the vagaries of profit making concerns. We live in hope.