Hello Hazel.
My aunt went into a Nursing Home a couple of years ago, but it had to be voluntary as the Director of Psychiatry said that it was just her 'Bizzare personallity'. She is self funding, so when she wanted to come home, they had to let her. While she was in there, apparently she created mayhem with her screaming, horrible habits which I will leave to your imagination and reluctance to mix with people, or wash or have her hair washed etc etc. So, I had her home again, called Social Services for a care package and waited to be helped. My aunt ordered the girls that came round to go away - and yet again, her doctor said that we and they have to comply with her wishes. On one hand, the doctor said 'She's too far gone mentally to go to a day centre, then he said that 'I was doing a great job with her and she seems to be not too bad!' She can be very polite to the doctor, which amazes me - so in effect, she can pull the wool over his eyes. I asked for a blood test as she is losing weight at an alarming rate, yet my aunt refused it when two District Nurses came round, so they just went!! Where do the officials draw the line? She has never actually been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, but believe me, I am now a world expert on this subject!! Ha-ha!! (Try telling the doctors that!). Social Services have now taken her off their books, the doc thinks she's just dandy so I'm at a loss.
No-one will help me or believe me about her behaviour, except the neighbours who hear her scream and smash things. They said that they would speak up for me, so at least I have some backing. I had an hours quiet today. Will start a new thread to tell you.
With much love
Jilly.