Dilemma! Hi all, I'm new to this very helpful and informative forum, so thanks in advance for any advice. My family and I may be one of the lucky ones where our mother has lived in an assisted living care home for nearly 6 years. Her decline has been very slow but the last year she has deteriorated and we have been losing a fighting battle with the care she is receiving and trying to keep her in her room, her home. The care care-home can no longer meet her dementia needs and has requested (for a while) that she moves to the enclosed unit or move out! We have sought advice and had an assessment from a professional (external) who agrees with the care-home. We have come to accept this (despite many failings on their behalf) nevertheless we are now faced with an imminent move. The care home want to carry out this transition without any aid from the family and have asked us NOT to visit for 3 days as they feel she will not settle if we are constantly going back and fore. I can't bare the thought of her feeling abandoned in new surrounding and feeling stressed and unhappy without her family. I'm finding it all extremely difficult to get my head around. I visit everyday and most night put her to bed. My siblings, granddaughter/son visit also few times a week so she is always seeing family. Any opinions/advice?