My Father who after 3-4 years of confusion has been diagnosed with Alzheimers. I live nearly 300 miles away and my sister and her family live only 5 mins away. She has been the one who has had to deal with this a lot more than me due to her location. I try to get to him when I can but sometimes it can be difficult and as such my sister and I have fell out more than once. My father is still living in his own home and has social services carers visiting him 3 times per day. He is however currently being assessed to see if he can continue to live at home safely.
In the past we have always had him come to us for either Xmas or New Year for a few days. The last time he visited he became very confused and disorientated.
With the holiday season looming and I am unsure what to do. My sister desperatly wants us to have him but my wife thinks it would do him more harm than good. I am stuck in the middle, I want him here but that maybe just to appease my own guilt at not seeing him enough. Would the chane do him good or would it upset him unessessarily. Does anyone have any advise or experience they could share. Thanks.
In the past we have always had him come to us for either Xmas or New Year for a few days. The last time he visited he became very confused and disorientated.
With the holiday season looming and I am unsure what to do. My sister desperatly wants us to have him but my wife thinks it would do him more harm than good. I am stuck in the middle, I want him here but that maybe just to appease my own guilt at not seeing him enough. Would the chane do him good or would it upset him unessessarily. Does anyone have any advise or experience they could share. Thanks.