I’m hoping to find support too, I’m hoping that I can find more general “old age” activities and services that will at least accommodate mum (and me) for the time being. If I wait until she is needing me 24/7 and I am too worn out to pursue anything...
Of course everything being online is not ideal, she can’t do it unless I set it up and hover, and I can’t talk/moan to anyone without her and the whole house overhearing!