Hi everyone. I'm new to this forum. What's bought me here is the need for some practical support and advice from people who have been there. My mum is 84 and was diagnosed with mixed dementia ( Vascular and most likely Alzheimers ) in January. I and my brother and sister long suspected she had it but it was only after the memory clinic appointment that it was confirmed. Unfortunately in the last few weeks mum has declined significantly. She is still living at home and she has carers twice a day, meals on wheels delivered, and district nurses going in for diabetic support. Mum has been in and out of hospital for the last month, primarily due to erratic blood sugars. But it is clear she is not coping at home. She can't now do the simplest tasks like making tea and preparing a simple meal. She also gets terribly lonely and is leaving home to seek company , not ideal at the moment.
I had a long conversation with an older peoples mental health nurse specialist last week, who is now saying that mum is not safe to live at home. She is also saying that mum now lacks capacity so it's too late for us to put Power of Attorney in place. The hospital are going to discharge mum initially to a care home for further assessment, after that who knows. Any care mum has would be funded by social services as she doesn't have sufficient funds to pay for her care.
What I'm asking for is some advice on the best option. Has any one here taken a parent home to live with them. My wife said in an ideal world we'd have mum at ours and she would give up work to look after her. Unfortunately we don't think this is viable financially, unless anyone can tell me otherwise. The other option is a care home, something mum has always asked me, when she was lucid, never to do to her. Or maybe for her to come home and have a live in carer. Has anyone done that and how is it funded.
Thanks in advance
Gary
I had a long conversation with an older peoples mental health nurse specialist last week, who is now saying that mum is not safe to live at home. She is also saying that mum now lacks capacity so it's too late for us to put Power of Attorney in place. The hospital are going to discharge mum initially to a care home for further assessment, after that who knows. Any care mum has would be funded by social services as she doesn't have sufficient funds to pay for her care.
What I'm asking for is some advice on the best option. Has any one here taken a parent home to live with them. My wife said in an ideal world we'd have mum at ours and she would give up work to look after her. Unfortunately we don't think this is viable financially, unless anyone can tell me otherwise. The other option is a care home, something mum has always asked me, when she was lucid, never to do to her. Or maybe for her to come home and have a live in carer. Has anyone done that and how is it funded.
Thanks in advance
Gary