What a profound and pertinent question. I wish I could answer simply. If I had a chance all over again I would not willingly have put myself in for how it was (but I think I experienced the more extreme issues of dementia). No, I am fortunate to have come out of it with my sanity, if not my physical health more or less intact although the intense anxiety remains even though my husband has been in a nursing home for a year now. But I do not know what the alternative would have been. Yes, I do, but I'm unwilling to say it! Thank you for giving us the opportunity to think about this and all strength to you. You are right, the sacrifices are tremendous. Kindred. All good wishes to you.