My uncle is 87 and lives on his own, he has carers going in three times a day. He has no other family except me and I try my best to see him 5 to 6 times a week. His dementia seems to of got worse over the past few weeks, with him hearing voices and seeing people that are not there and shouting. The carers now come in pairs because they are scared of him. He has a little jack russell dog which he loves and is great company for him but the socal worker and mental health nurse involved wants me to take the dog away because they are saying he can,t look after it but I know if I do that then he will hate me and not want me to go down anymore. He used to have a cat and it died of old age and he blamed his neighbour for killing it and now he hates her.
There is a time when he will have to go into a care home but I don,t have the power do or say that. I have asked him if he would like me to find somewhere but he point blank refuses to go into a care home and starts to get angry and frustrated with me if I ask. He will not let me take him to hospital for appointments now because he thinks I am taking him away from his bungalow and putting him in a care home.
My sister passed away a few weeks ago and I am really finding this hard to cope with but I know I have to keep going strong for him but I am struggling juggling my business (I am self emplyed) and looking after him at the same time and I feel so guilty sometimes.
There is a time when he will have to go into a care home but I don,t have the power do or say that. I have asked him if he would like me to find somewhere but he point blank refuses to go into a care home and starts to get angry and frustrated with me if I ask. He will not let me take him to hospital for appointments now because he thinks I am taking him away from his bungalow and putting him in a care home.
My sister passed away a few weeks ago and I am really finding this hard to cope with but I know I have to keep going strong for him but I am struggling juggling my business (I am self emplyed) and looking after him at the same time and I feel so guilty sometimes.