Good day to you all.
I will try and start at the beginning
I am one of 8 siblings we range from 50- 71 years of age. We are all over the UK and as far as Australia and USA. For years we all got on with each other, yes we had our differences but we all use to meet and have family times together with no real problem.
My stepfather and mother live in Wales. They had a nice life and about 6 years ago one of my sisters retired to live about 500 feet away from them thinking she could be close to mum and spend happy times together. A few years ago mum was diagnosed with Altzheimers, my stepfather health also went in to decline. My sister suddenly found herself. Looking after them both, everything from helping with daily life to arranging health care and appointments etc. My sisters twin in Australia also has been diagnosed with Altzheimers and she herself is recovering from cancer.
Some months ago my sister sent a letter to all of us asking for help. This letter cause some of the siblings to respond and in a negative way.this rift has now cause the siblings to split in to two camps. This was some months ago. Then suddenly my stepfather became ill and he passed away some weeks ago. The tension between the siblings is very high and now I don't recognise them anymore because of the horrible things they are saying
My sister was going to be the POA but she was so stressed with the vile comments from another sibling and her own problems that she no longer is POA. The family are split and the one half has my younger sister who has POA with her husband
It's very hard at present because they can't separate the sibling rivalry apart and just think of mum. I have requested from the OPG copies of the type of POA. We are not talking so we are in the dark on what's happening. My brothers hatred suddenly for my sister is threatening and frightening her.
We in the other half are being kept in the dark and they are not making it any easier for us to have access to see mum due to the issues between us. My view is we should put all that aside and think of mums life but they are so entrenched they can't put it aside
I have a few questions:
1. Dependent on the type of POA can my sister stop us from visiting mum?
2. Should we get a solicitor to write to her to remind her of her duties under POA to make mums life a happy one which means she wants to see her children in peace and quiet?
3 is what I have explained strong enough to write to the PGO or social services as a complaint that mums doesn't have access to all her children?
Mum lives in her own home but has care and they take it in turns to stay with her but they are not asking us or my sister who lives a stone throw away just to spite us
I am sorry this is so long
thanks
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I will try and start at the beginning
I am one of 8 siblings we range from 50- 71 years of age. We are all over the UK and as far as Australia and USA. For years we all got on with each other, yes we had our differences but we all use to meet and have family times together with no real problem.
My stepfather and mother live in Wales. They had a nice life and about 6 years ago one of my sisters retired to live about 500 feet away from them thinking she could be close to mum and spend happy times together. A few years ago mum was diagnosed with Altzheimers, my stepfather health also went in to decline. My sister suddenly found herself. Looking after them both, everything from helping with daily life to arranging health care and appointments etc. My sisters twin in Australia also has been diagnosed with Altzheimers and she herself is recovering from cancer.
Some months ago my sister sent a letter to all of us asking for help. This letter cause some of the siblings to respond and in a negative way.this rift has now cause the siblings to split in to two camps. This was some months ago. Then suddenly my stepfather became ill and he passed away some weeks ago. The tension between the siblings is very high and now I don't recognise them anymore because of the horrible things they are saying
My sister was going to be the POA but she was so stressed with the vile comments from another sibling and her own problems that she no longer is POA. The family are split and the one half has my younger sister who has POA with her husband
It's very hard at present because they can't separate the sibling rivalry apart and just think of mum. I have requested from the OPG copies of the type of POA. We are not talking so we are in the dark on what's happening. My brothers hatred suddenly for my sister is threatening and frightening her.
We in the other half are being kept in the dark and they are not making it any easier for us to have access to see mum due to the issues between us. My view is we should put all that aside and think of mums life but they are so entrenched they can't put it aside
I have a few questions:
1. Dependent on the type of POA can my sister stop us from visiting mum?
2. Should we get a solicitor to write to her to remind her of her duties under POA to make mums life a happy one which means she wants to see her children in peace and quiet?
3 is what I have explained strong enough to write to the PGO or social services as a complaint that mums doesn't have access to all her children?
Mum lives in her own home but has care and they take it in turns to stay with her but they are not asking us or my sister who lives a stone throw away just to spite us
I am sorry this is so long
thanks
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