Hello. Looking for advice on how to manage with mum in a care home that is too far away for me to visit more than once a month. My brother lives 5 mins away and visits once a week but is not good at giving me feedback and I am constantly worrying what's going on. I am going to pay an ex carer to visit on my behalf twice a week now - any other words of wisdom? I worry that she is not drinking enough, eating enough, all the usual. Staff are very reassuring and obviously rushed off their feet and I just wished I was nearer to pop in daily and just 'check'. Guilt is at an all-time high. I moved away 20 years ago and have seen mum once a month for most of that time with regular phone calls. Now she cant manage phone calls really. My brain is on overload!