- Oct 1, 2020
I lost my father back in February, I was his carer for the 5 years he had Alzheimer's. I was on my own the whole time and now I find myself lost, lonely and frightened.
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That is a tremendous responsibility, to care for a parent with Alzheimer's disease over a period of years. During that time the nature of that caring intensifies that relationship and it requires the commitment which is selfless and focused on that one person who is totally reliant on the continuity of that care. If one has been more or less confined to a one to one relationship and outside social activities not playing any significant role, then when the caring ceases owing to the ending of the life which has been integral in one's own daily existence, there is a profound sense of detachment from normal life. Loss and perhaps anxiety fills the void and depression can become the new companion. Much of the trivial which masquerades as normality fails to provide any solace. On the contrary. Because what you have done is fundamentally right, eminently selfless, profoundly human - cared with compassion for a parent who could no longer live a life without that care. And it is not easy and can be immensely challenging and painful. Yet you do it all the same. So, do not feel lonely, do not feel frightened, because you are as important not simply owing to the care you have given to your father, but because in truth -- not fanciful opinion, nor sentiment -- you are as important as any other human being on this Earth. You matter.I lost my father back in February, I was his carer for the 5 years he had Alzheimer's. I was on my own the whole time and now I find myself lost, lonely and frightened.
I haven't been able to find a group in Belfast so far.Is there a carers group in Belfast for those who are or were carers? If you can make contact with groups you might find they are still Supporting each other by occasionally meeting up or even just messaging. Reach out Stephen you need company. Chat on here when you want to vent.