my husband has also got vascular dementia and was also diagnosed in march although he had it in before that. nobody knows truly other that people who live or regularly care for them. my kids they he looks like dad but now they are seeing him more often even the older grandchildren are looking out for him.you cant predict what they will say or do and yes its very hard seeing going little by little. i always say you can see in their eyes that the same person is not there anymore. its a grieving process because you losing the person i fell in love with and married. but i dont dwell on what ive lost but what ive still got. you can be sad later