It breaks my heart that mum says she is lonely in carehome. We would visit every day but that unsettles mum greatly. She is becoming frail and shuffling, losing words. Dad does take mum out and sometimes she has been well enough to enjoy this even though not quite sure if she realises it is dad but even so she enjoys her "date" which has been lovely. But after 2 utis she is now unsettled again and saying she is lonely, and crying when we visit. She is generally more settled at carehome and they know mum now. They give her jobs, but I think now she is frailer she wanders round more with little aim to her life. Oh dear, I wish I could do more without unsettling mum but more visits do just that. I feel quite helpless as to what to do.