I am an only child and have been coping with a living bereavement for five years now caused through a stroke and a diagnosis of Vascular Dementia to my Mum of 84. Some days are good, others not. Steadily over the years, I have watched my Mum go down hill. Each time she has a fall, a mini stroke I have been told, another part of the brain shuts down. She is also partially blind which is not helping the situation. She has no quality of life and she cannot cry anymore. She lives in Sheltered Housing with a Care Team to adminster her medication, prepare her meals, and shower her, but as they can no longer cope with her increasing needs, I decided I would put her into Respite Care with a Nursing Home as her weight was bothering me, she weighs under 6st. I do feel upset about this as I thought I would never have to get to the stage of putting my Mum anywhere like that. The Nursing Home have now said that she is not safe to return home and I have tried to discuss this with her, but she seems quite upset by the situation which in turn, upsets me and then the guilt-trip sets in, but in the end I only want her to be safe. I am feeling rather stressed out by this situation and am finding that I cannot concentrate at work, am irritable with my family and emotionally drained.