Hi..
Here's the scenario. Jim's wife died last year, and since then he's been 'home alone' and quite happy with his own company. Although he is mainly living on takeaways, and rarely washing these days, we have put a few systems in place.. popping round and helping fill up his weekly medicines etc.. He's not lossing weight, and he's just about 'making do'. His son has a wife and two children, age 13 and 10. Their family run business is struggling, they're needing to move house, and they want to move in with Jim, helping him out, and there are enough bedrooms for them all. Jim thinks this is a bad idea. He likes his own space, he's worried about whether it'll work. He wants to help his son out, and we all want Jim to be safe and supported, but not in any way that he doesn't want for himself.
So, I'm looking to see what we need to take into account. If Jim decides that he does want them to move in, then what do they need to know? (they know nothing about alzheimers, and Jim is only showing early signs at the moment. He is still driving, uses the date from a daily newspaper and a diary to work out what he's doing each day, and getting by with us popping round to do his washing, which his wife always used to do)
Please help with suggestions of some of the issues we need to raise. To my mind, if Jim doesn't want it, he doesn't want it full stop.. but he's going to need some help sooner or later.. His sone and family are open to looking at all the issues and all eventualities, and making a plan now for future events...
Thank you
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Here's the scenario. Jim's wife died last year, and since then he's been 'home alone' and quite happy with his own company. Although he is mainly living on takeaways, and rarely washing these days, we have put a few systems in place.. popping round and helping fill up his weekly medicines etc.. He's not lossing weight, and he's just about 'making do'. His son has a wife and two children, age 13 and 10. Their family run business is struggling, they're needing to move house, and they want to move in with Jim, helping him out, and there are enough bedrooms for them all. Jim thinks this is a bad idea. He likes his own space, he's worried about whether it'll work. He wants to help his son out, and we all want Jim to be safe and supported, but not in any way that he doesn't want for himself.
So, I'm looking to see what we need to take into account. If Jim decides that he does want them to move in, then what do they need to know? (they know nothing about alzheimers, and Jim is only showing early signs at the moment. He is still driving, uses the date from a daily newspaper and a diary to work out what he's doing each day, and getting by with us popping round to do his washing, which his wife always used to do)
Please help with suggestions of some of the issues we need to raise. To my mind, if Jim doesn't want it, he doesn't want it full stop.. but he's going to need some help sooner or later.. His sone and family are open to looking at all the issues and all eventualities, and making a plan now for future events...
Thank you
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