Better news...
Just got in after getting to my Rob's " home" unexpectedly early. I like to keep them on their toes, and this morning they passed with flying colours; he was being very patiently helped to shower and dress. I stood in his room and listened for a bit....he was being very uncooperative but the Carer got the job done with gentle persuasion. Very reassuring, as she wouldn't have known I was there.
I sat with him when he had his breakfast, and they made him porridge followed by a bacon sandwich, and a large mug of coffee as well as a cordial drink.
Then we sat in the newly created garden, mature trees, grass, nice planting in raised beds, including some vegetables...next year it will be a picture with the new jasmine and roses and other climbers covering a new pergola. A nice touch is the laundry door is always open to the garden, and they hang washing out in the fresh air to dry.
Back inside for coffee and biscuits, 1950s music playing in the background.....and nothing was too much trouble...
He's been in a difficult mood recently, ( full moon?) and there's another man with a similarly impatient manner...strange, because at other times they seem to quite like each other. Rob spoke nicely to a lady sitting by herself and she beamed. I'm beginning to get the feeling of a family, and I think Rob is too, as he's getting to know faces and they know him.
So, today I felt it probably wouldn't be a good idea to disrupt what has been achieved to try somewhere unknown.
I've had an army of visitors for him, all dropping in unannounced at odd times, and all putting the same points forward....We all suggest that visitors be enabled to make tea whenever it's needed, because it would save the Carers time. Maybe we'll get a breakthrough...there is a little tea bar which is rarely manned, but I've noticed it has been more recently.
We're working on more frequent attended visits to the toilet.... A friend is going to pop in this afternoon, and I only left at 12 o'clock........
I can see now that everything depends on what the Carers are like....It seems to me that good Carers can make or break a Care Home environment.......and everything else is secondary.....today there was a good team.