Just waiting and hoping we might be able to get some residential respite care for my husband. We devised an informal visit to a specialist Dementia Care Home, with me suddenly remembering a GP's appointment and dashing off, leaving him with his familiar friend, the one who takes him out and about. That made it easier to then leave my husband with a new "friend" at the home, so there was an hour or so's assessment. That was Friday, and now, Tuesday evening, I haven't yet heard what they thought his needs would be, though I can't see it being less than one to one. If he is accepted the home insist on two weeks....so now I'm worrying about him being distressed there, and me subsequently finding it more difficult to care for him back home. It all happens at once doesn't it? Yesterday, after weeks of waiting and asking, we finally got a visit from a new Community Psychiatric Nurse. What a contrast to the previous one....this one listened to me, and seemed to understand everything about Dementia. Her idea was to increase the Memantine, and continue the Mirtazepine, at least for the present. It seems simple to me currently at least; one to one care at home, but with someone else to relieve me at times. But that just doesn't seem to be available, and we can't afford much more than the 30 hours a week that we fund privately already. I feel aggrieved that I seem to be considered a Resource, and not a 76 year old having to ignore my own health needs.