Life without him....
- Thread starter Rageddy Anne
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We were married 56 years and 4 months....
I suppose those unexpected moments will keep cropping up....Last evening I was treated to a surprise visit to our local pantomime, in company with older son and second granddaughter...a very happy occasion. All was wel, very well, until they started a really jolly song and dance routine...They wouldn't have known that both Rob, and his dad before him, had often broken into that song at happy times...
" The sun has got his hat on,
hip hip hip hip hooray,
the sun has got his hat on
and he's coming out to play."
Oh dear, it was so hard to smile through it!!! Happy, and desolate at the same time...
I suppose those unexpected moments will keep cropping up....Last evening I was treated to a surprise visit to our local pantomime, in company with older son and second granddaughter...a very happy occasion. All was wel, very well, until they started a really jolly song and dance routine...They wouldn't have known that both Rob, and his dad before him, had often broken into that song at happy times...
" The sun has got his hat on,
hip hip hip hip hooray,
the sun has got his hat on
and he's coming out to play."
Oh dear, it was so hard to smile through it!!! Happy, and desolate at the same time...
Music is so emotive, isn’t it? I was in a shop just a couple of days after Dad died and they played, ‘You are my sunshine..’ and I cried! I’d sung it to him while he was in hospital. I hope you enjoyed the pantomime too. Anything nice planned for today?
Just after mums funeral, my OH and I went on our already booked holiday
That evening, the entertainment was a “disco” of music
The first three songs played were the music we had at mums funeral
When it came to the fourth song, one of my mother’s favourites, I had to leave before completely breaking down in tears in front of everyone
Those four songs were regularly played during the week. Initially very painful, but after a while I began to think of them as comfort songs, songs to show me mum was still around.
Fanciful maybe, but that’s the only way I could hear them without sobbing
That evening, the entertainment was a “disco” of music
The first three songs played were the music we had at mums funeral
When it came to the fourth song, one of my mother’s favourites, I had to leave before completely breaking down in tears in front of everyone
Those four songs were regularly played during the week. Initially very painful, but after a while I began to think of them as comfort songs, songs to show me mum was still around.
Fanciful maybe, but that’s the only way I could hear them without sobbing
Today's exciting event has been a trip to the posh supermarket to buy things I probably didn't need and get my free newspaper. Have enjoyed having a hotdog instead of proper lunch, and have whipped some cream for a scone later on... Healthy eating will have to wait until tomorrow!
Might indulge by lighting the log effect gas fire later, when I make tea, Our clear blue sky has greyed over, but I'm not sure the Express's dramatic weather warnings are reflected by the Met Office forecast... However, I have got Rob's old snow scraper and some salt ready just in case...
Hopefully it will be just picturesque snow, rather than the inconveniencing type! Do you know, I very often used to make myself scones for a Sunday afternoon treat when I was by myself. They are so quick...and it saves cooking an evening meal! Mum said that was the one small consolation of being alone, sometimes she made herself porridge instead of a meal!
I bought hot dogs for our lunch yesterday at the Christmas fair...and my four year old granddaughter wanted chips...which she had. But then she turned attention to my meal...and I gave her what was left of my sausage, thinking, I will just eat the roll....and then she wanted the roll too!! Hope you enjoyed yours in peace!
I bought hot dogs for our lunch yesterday at the Christmas fair...and my four year old granddaughter wanted chips...which she had. But then she turned attention to my meal...and I gave her what was left of my sausage, thinking, I will just eat the roll....and then she wanted the roll too!! Hope you enjoyed yours in peace!
Oh dear, that wasn't much of a meal for you! At least I had all the hot dog and didn't need to share!
People keep ringing me up, and leaving messages for me to ring them back...it's going to cost a fortune, when I'm needing to watch the pennies, at least until I know what my income and out goings will be..
How very ungrateful of me when people are bring so kind!!!
It's knowing the conversation will inevitably be difficult that makes me not want to reply!
Only two days to get so much done before the daily radiotherapy begins....There's so much to do and I'm told I will become very tired...
So it will be a good idea to prioritise, and shrug off the self pity!
People keep ringing me up, and leaving messages for me to ring them back...it's going to cost a fortune, when I'm needing to watch the pennies, at least until I know what my income and out goings will be..
How very ungrateful of me when people are bring so kind!!!
It's knowing the conversation will inevitably be difficult that makes me not want to reply!
Only two days to get so much done before the daily radiotherapy begins....There's so much to do and I'm told I will become very tired...
So it will be a good idea to prioritise, and shrug off the self pity!
Try to put yourself first for now Anne. You have no responsibilities other than to yourself .
THANKYOU dear Grannie G... I hope you are all right, with interesting things to do, and no creepy crawlies in sight...
Hi @Rageddy Anne ,
is your radiotherapy starting today?
Not everyone feels tired. Hope you won't.
You are in my thoughts.
is your radiotherapy starting today?
Not everyone feels tired. Hope you won't.
You are in my thoughts.
Very best wishes for today RA. I hope things go as well as can be expected. I used to take a friend for her radiotherapy and she was tired when she returned home but rested for a couple of hours which helped greatly.She used to listen to audiobooks whilst resting. x
Anne - hope all goes well today, thinking of you.
Sleep when you feel tired - it will help the body heal.
Sleep when you feel tired - it will help the body heal.
Dear RA ...just remember a great big smile and your knees! We are all sending love....you are not going into this alone. x x x x
Thinking of you today Anne..
If tiredness does kick in it is usually during the second half of a month of radiotherapy. Everyone is different though. A friend with breast cancer drove herself a distance from her village into the city hospital and back again. Me...well I fell asleep half way home an hour or so drive - with Henry at the wheel!
Wishing you all the best
Loo xxx
If tiredness does kick in it is usually during the second half of a month of radiotherapy. Everyone is different though. A friend with breast cancer drove herself a distance from her village into the city hospital and back again. Me...well I fell asleep half way home an hour or so drive - with Henry at the wheel!
Wishing you all the best
Loo xxx
