Does anyone have any advise on how to deal with a partner who lies? We had a visit from the occupational health team from the memory clinic team. When she asked my partner spent his days what came out of his mouth was pure fiction. He said he walks 2 miles every day he does the gardening (HE never did much gardening before his AD) he cooks ..makes hot drinks....(the last time he did this he poured boiling water all over the worktop as he had the cup upside down)basically he does none of these his days are spent following me around the house and rummaging through drawers etc for some imagined important item!.
The final straw was when he told the interviewer that the best time for him is when I go out shopping so he gets some peace and quiet!!!! I NEVER leave his side as he gets anxious and panics when he is left on his own. Fortunately I did manage to say to the health visitor when he was out of earshot that it was all lies she told me not to worry as she had seen his case notes and knew that he was not telling the truth. It is like having a teenager in the house ..sayings like" it wasnt me " etc. why does he lie so much?
Anyway rant over thanks for being there whilst I let off steam.
regards Jude1950
The final straw was when he told the interviewer that the best time for him is when I go out shopping so he gets some peace and quiet!!!! I NEVER leave his side as he gets anxious and panics when he is left on his own. Fortunately I did manage to say to the health visitor when he was out of earshot that it was all lies she told me not to worry as she had seen his case notes and knew that he was not telling the truth. It is like having a teenager in the house ..sayings like" it wasnt me " etc. why does he lie so much?
Anyway rant over thanks for being there whilst I let off steam.
regards Jude1950