hello
@Big foot
a warm welcome to DTP
dad had some challenging moments and I found it best to retreat so he didn't have me around to turn to or fixate on
I do agree with talking things over with the staff who will be able to let ypu know how your dad is when he has no visitors
at one point the manager of dad's care home called in the Community Psychiatric Team to assess him and suggest ways to support him, including looking at his meds ... that was really helpful
PS I cross posted with you
given what you describe, it may be helpful to the staff for family not to visit so much, so they can establish relationships with your dad
maybe distract rather than try to explain ... I found with dad that for one thing he was no longer able to follow any explanation and also he simply took me trying to explain as conformation that something was wrong and he was right, which escalated his behaviour ... I turned to making non-commital noises/responses, saying I was sorry he was upset but not engaging with whatever he was saying, and immediately suggesting a coffee and chocolate biscuit somewhere else with a bif smile on my face .. sometimes worked well; other times we just had to let him be in his room and wait for him to settle ... not easy for anyone