Hi, I haven't put any posts on for ages, but have visited the site a lot. My Dad has died, not directly because of his dementia, but that was the reason my step mum and I decided against intervention when he was taken seriously ill. He had a perforated bowel, and although a major operation was an option, he had chronic lung disease and a weak heart and it would have been a great risk anyway. We both felt that had he not had dementia it might have been a risk worth taking, but he was so unhappy and had gone downhill so fast in the past few months that we wanted to let him go in peace and dignity. Even though the doctors and nurses supported us, and we had gone over this scenario in our minds before it happened it was an awful decision to have to make in reality. But we feel it was right, and that he has been set free from suffering and struggling. It was coming closer and closer to the moment when he would have had to go into permanent care, and we knew that he would have been terribly unhappy . We miss him terribly, but we want him back the way he used to be.