I'd appreciate people's advice. While we're used to getting the "I want to go home" routine during visits to see Mum in her home (there since March), feedback from the home is that she is generally chatty, fairly lively and seems contented most of the time. Their analysis is that we are the 'outlet' for frustration, which exhibits itself as wanting to go home. To us, Mum is blaming the hospital doctor for 'putting her there'. (We noticed from the last visit that, briefly distracted by one of the staff, she suddenly spoke about the lovely evening with a local accordion player they'd had the night before, which she'd never mentioned to us - we're obviously reserved for the doom and gloom).
Over the weekend, visiting Mum's home and catching up with neighbours, it transpires she has been writing letters to them pleading to be taken home and even enclosing saes to ask them to send her the key. This is understandably upsetting them, as they have known Mum for years and were good friends in many cases. I know she's been writing to them in the past and sounded very gloomy, and spoke to the home. Their view is that, while it's obviously upsetting, they'd rather she had the ability to write letters and won't stop her.
Given she's - to us - in complete denial of any problem, trying to explain why she is where she is seems like a no go. Are we stuck in this loop until further notice? Any suggestion or advice?
Over the weekend, visiting Mum's home and catching up with neighbours, it transpires she has been writing letters to them pleading to be taken home and even enclosing saes to ask them to send her the key. This is understandably upsetting them, as they have known Mum for years and were good friends in many cases. I know she's been writing to them in the past and sounded very gloomy, and spoke to the home. Their view is that, while it's obviously upsetting, they'd rather she had the ability to write letters and won't stop her.
Given she's - to us - in complete denial of any problem, trying to explain why she is where she is seems like a no go. Are we stuck in this loop until further notice? Any suggestion or advice?