Thank you for all the replies, and my sympathies for everyones troubles, I am just begining to see how hard this is, today has been very hard Mum had her door monitor fixed and was very difficult about it, complaining about the noise the man made and that fact that it was her house, she is not like this normaly, I wish I could get her to understand that she has a problem but she cannot see it, and refuses to wear the pendant the man left, my daughter who I am normaly helping is coping as well as she can, and i am having to get my three cats rehomed, because of my own problems it makes everything much more difficult, and now I am worried that if i have to leave early i will set the door alarm off and get a call myself from the call centre, this is one of those situations you have to be in to understand and i am learning fast. please forgive my spelling mistakes.