Hello all
I’m so glad I found this forum, hi to everyone.
My Mum has mixed dementia, she is 90 years old and lives alone after losing Dad 3 years ago. Around 2 years ago my brother and I wanted to help her as Mum does not like being on her own, we suggested sheltered housing, selling her house and my house to enable us to live together but Mum did not want any of these options.
Even before her dementia diagnosis she could make me feel very guilty that I’m not doing enough even though I saw her almost every day on my way home from work. She had also started drinking sherry and lost her appetite.
My job was stressful and with trying to be with Mum it all got too much and I left my job of 20 years in September 2021 to help care for Mum.
I look after her 6 hours a day while she has carers visit 3 times a day. She still says that she hates living on her own. I have done everything to make her happy but nothing seems to be good enough. I love her very much.
My brother visits twice a week for a couple hours a day.
Mum’s dementia is getting worse, she gets confused, sees things and asks the same questions over and over.
Recently I have been getting quite low with the situation even though I love Mum and really want to help her but o feel like I’ve lost a bit of me.
Can anyone else relate, I would really appreciate a reply.
Thank you so much.
Kindest wishes.
Gina
I’m so glad I found this forum, hi to everyone.
My Mum has mixed dementia, she is 90 years old and lives alone after losing Dad 3 years ago. Around 2 years ago my brother and I wanted to help her as Mum does not like being on her own, we suggested sheltered housing, selling her house and my house to enable us to live together but Mum did not want any of these options.
Even before her dementia diagnosis she could make me feel very guilty that I’m not doing enough even though I saw her almost every day on my way home from work. She had also started drinking sherry and lost her appetite.
My job was stressful and with trying to be with Mum it all got too much and I left my job of 20 years in September 2021 to help care for Mum.
I look after her 6 hours a day while she has carers visit 3 times a day. She still says that she hates living on her own. I have done everything to make her happy but nothing seems to be good enough. I love her very much.
My brother visits twice a week for a couple hours a day.
Mum’s dementia is getting worse, she gets confused, sees things and asks the same questions over and over.
Recently I have been getting quite low with the situation even though I love Mum and really want to help her but o feel like I’ve lost a bit of me.
Can anyone else relate, I would really appreciate a reply.
Thank you so much.
Kindest wishes.
Gina