@margherita yes I only like the dog really! Everyone else is a pain to be frank. She has been stressed without me at home with her but my DH and daughter still at home look after her and the other daughter (actual owner) is coming home for a few weeks from uni so she should be well loved.
I took mum to a podiatrist, my new strategy of blaming the GP for referring her worked I think, though she had ALOT of questions! I didn’t tell her that I had requested the referral, or that we were going until an hour beforehand! There wasn’t much wrong, just a loose big toenail that she let the doctor trim it and the rest off (I would never have got near it and I would have hurt her which he did not), he was a little “why? Is she here” but played along well especially with my tales of going on a trip which in fact we are, but I will be pushing her in a wheelchair during most of the trip probably! I feel a little silly taking her to a podiatrist to have nails trimmed, but on the other hand yesterday she was wincing in a shop and admitted that it was the nail. I was worried she would need it surgically removed or that it could have got caught on something and been very painful. At least I know it’s ok now.
We then went to an expensive grocery store and it went much better than the crowded big one. Worth it! I’m feeling a little calmer now and have made more progress getting phones to work and money and passwords set up and reducing the deluge of paper mail. I am going to have to get everything forwarded to my aunt in USA and have her open anything that looks important since they will only hold mail for one month and we are going away for at least 3. The other issue is extracting enough medication from the GP/pharmacy for an extra 3 months. It’s really ordinary cheap statin and blood thinner but you’d think it was heroin. I’m thinking of changing it to mail order and having it sent to my aunt to send on to us.
DH very stressed about money back in the UK, our house purchase is costing a lot and going very slow between Land Registry searches being backlogged- if it takes over the end of the month we will have to pay an extra £20K in stamp duty. That comes off our budget for making it habitable, it needs a lotta work and you can’t get cement, tiles etc for love nor money due to our old friend Mr Pandemic. Some of this extra cost and rush is due to having mum move in with us, so I said she can help us (and would willingly) by paying rent etc. but we have to be prepared that if she ends up in care for years and years and uses up all her assets, we will have to pay it back. Also once she accepts (or it becomes a fact) that she needs to stay in the same country with us, I can come back and sort out her house for renting so it will give a small income as well. He understands that and is fine with that so I think felt a bit better.
